Whether hiking through the woods, driving on vacation, or delivering
a load to a client you want to have good directions. And good
directions really help in finding the right life partner, raising
kids, making a major financial decision, or doing your job. As far
as life is concerned a lot of people just “wing it” and hope things
turn out okay. We hope GOOD DIRECTIONS will provide thought
provoking material to help you be your best whether you are starting
your career, midway through, or nearing retirement.
Have you wondered what it
might have been like if you’d had a roadmap for life when you first
started your journey … and actually followed it? How might life have
been different? Some people look back with regrets. Others look back
with satisfaction. Some look forward with dread while others look
forward with excitement.
What makes the difference in our outlook? We know we cannot change
the past and sometimes we believe we cannot change where we are
headed. Whether we are young, at midlife, or growing toward
retirement we should understand that we have the same starting line
for life and that starting line is called TODAY.
So let’s start with an
assessment regarding where you are today. Do you have “reasonable
mastery” in your life? According to
Dr. Raymond B. Flannery, “reasonable mastery refers to our abilities
to shape the world in socially acceptable ways to meet our needs.”
put, it means that we need to master the ability to live in a way
that is both acceptable to society and to us. Our mastery skills
affect the way we function at home, at work, and how we relate to
the world around us. Adverse circumstances at home or in our
community can impair our mastery skills at work. And pressures in
the workplace can affect our relationships at home and in the
community. The question is how can we build or rebuild these mastery
It’s all about you. That’s not arrogance. It is simply a fact. It’s
too easy to blame someone else, although someone else may be a big
part of your problem. It all comes down to a personal decision; the
decision to improve, or continue to stew.
I’m not saying everything will miraculously change the moment you
decide to make changes in your life. But you might be surprised at
how life at work, at home and life in general can improve as you
work toward personal improvement.
Here are some questions to ask at the “starting line” each day. Am I
master over the things that are most significant in my life? (List
what is most significant to you) Are my mastery skills their best at
work or are there ways I can improve? If problems at home affect my
work performance, can I file those problems away while I am at work?
And if problems at work affect my relationships off the job, can I
leave those problems at work and pick up the challenge tomorrow, my
new starting line? Am I master over my emotions? Am I master over my
body – what I put in it, how I take care of it? (Exercise and proper
diet are fuel for a good attitude and sense of well being) Am I
working toward a greater mastery in my work performance, in my home
relationships, and in my social relationships?
Why not set some goals in areas where you want to improve? If a
daily “starting line” seems too distant, set another “starting line”
at lunch break and perhaps another “starting line” when you get off
work. Every moment presents an opportunity to start again to improve
our work ethic, our thought life, our outlook from negative to
positive, our relationships, and more. These are areas of our life
where we can really take charge – be in control. Take the attitude
of Anthony Robbins who said, I am no longer willing to drive into
the future using my rearview mirror as my tool of navigation. Your
future starts with your next breath. Make the most of it.