will always be at risk to an occasional natural disaster,
which will impact our life in some way. We may lose
everything, suffer moderate or slight loss, or may lose
nothing. Whatever happens, we will be impacted in some way.
And our ability to regain a sense of balance can be made
more difficult if we learn the disaster was caused by
deliberate human activity.
Frustration can also take its toll as we deal with insurance
matters, try to recover important documents, facilitate
repairs, deal with our customary medical issues, and more.
Added to these stresses are the needs to earn a living and
pay bills, and we come to realize that the calm after the
storm isn’t really all that calm.
Recovering a sense of balance after the storm can be quite
challenging. For example,
You may not think the way you did before
You may not feel the way you did before
You may experience unusual or uncomfortable emotions
that may change from day to day
You may have difficulty getting along with family,
friends, or coworkers. You may not even like yourself
You may experience frustration due to the changes you
have been forced to accept.
You may be confused by unusual feelings three to six
months from now.
You may see, smell, or hear something that reminds you
of your experience, causing emotions to come flooding
We’ve got good news for you! It’s okay to feel the way you
do. It’s part of the normal recovery process and path of
readjustment. It’s alright because that’s you. And it’s
alright for others to feel and think the way they do because
as individuals, we sometimes respond to the same crisis in a
THINGS TO TRY
You can wear yourself out with
nonstop attention to your recovery efforts –
insurance, contractors, etc. Take a break from
the stress. Enjoy a hobby, take your family to a
movie, or go to the beach, a park, a place you
usually enjoy. Doing so gives your mind and body
a chance to rehabilitate. It will be physically
and mentally refreshing and enable you to think
Get back to a regular routine as
soon as possible. This “normal” part of your
life will be an anchor in the midst of the rest
of the chaos.
It is easy to allow the fear of the next unknown
tragedy to keep us from enjoying the present.
Reassure yourself and others that you are safe.
Consider the blessings of what
you did not lose.
Exercise can help alleviate
stress and help the body regain its balance.
Exercise controlled emotional
response. It will help you feel good about
Make some long-range goals; then
select some intermediate ways to accomplish
those goals and begin working toward those
Enjoy the comfort and
reassurance of being with others whether it is
at your place of worship, a neighborhood group,
a service club, or some other group. There is
great support in being part of something bigger
Volunteering for a community or
neighborhood project can be a good diversion
from recovery stress as well as give you a good
feeling of contribution. We feel better about
ourselves when we give of ourselves.
- Create a regular daily structure for them to
follow. Restore their regular routine as soon as
possible. Encourage positive thinking.
- For younger children, give them paper and
crayons to create a picture of how they feel.
Then help them talk about it.
- For older children, talk it out.
- Correct false information or rumors. Use
simple language with a positive tone.
- Give your children the assurance that they
are safe and that you are there for them.
- Ask them to suggest ways they believe things
could be better, and then encourage them to
participate in a plan based on their